Known and Loved

“To be known is to be loved and to be loved is to be known.”

One of our greatest needs as humans is to be known and loved.

We all crave it.

To be understood.

To be held safe and secure.

To know that we are accepted- unconditionally and completely.

To be loved- really loved, even after all the flaws are out and in the open.

To know we aren’t alone in this world.

I think it’s safe to say that we all are in pursuit of this in one way or another. Yet often times our attempts to feel this fall sort. We are left empty and often times- hurting deeper and greater than the pain we feel of being alone.  In my case, so much of my hope to feel loved and known was misplaced.

I wonder if the Samaritan woman can relate to this feeling. The longing to be known and loved drove her to man after man and failed marriage after failed marriage. Her shame led her to come out to the well in the heat of the day to avoid the scrutiny of those in her village. I’m sure she knew rejection, heartbreak, betrayal, and emptiness all too well. Yet, little did she know that her life was about to change. A man met her at the well that day.. and He spoke to her. A Jewish man speaking to a Samaritan woman. Talk about oil and water! In their culture, she had no value- she was a woman… and a woman probably provocative in nature- living an immoral and sinful lifestyle. Yet, the man that meets her is Jesus. He doesn’t see just a woman living in sin- He sees her. In her brokenness. In her shame. In her need. In her thirst for love and approval. He sees her. He sees her need to be made whole by the Gospel. So he speaks. Instead of judgement and hate- He speaks truth- He calls her out. Out from the shadows of shame into the light of the Gospel.

Her greatest need was to be known and loved. Jesus did exactly that. In John 4:16-18 Jesus says to her, “Go call your husband, and come here.” The woman answered him, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You are right in saying, “I have no husband”; for you have had five husbands, and the one you now have is not your husband. What you have said is true.”

He tells her the truth. He proves to her that she is known. She is seen. She isn’t hidden from Him. She doesn’t need to explain or justify. She is known by Him. He doesn’t turn away in disgust or rejection He engages with her and offers her life and satisfaction that will never fail or grow stale. He meets her right where she’s at and offers her a life completely different from the one she has been living.

One of my favorite singer-songwriters, Ellie Holcomb penned some beautiful lyrics based around the Christmas story, yet it applies all year round in my opinion. The bridge to her song, “Hope is Alive” says:

 “Into our aching

Into our breaking

Into our longing to be made whole

Your arms are reaching

Your love is holding us close


Into our suffering

Into our weeping

Into this need we have to be known

Your arms are reaching

Your love is holding us close


Hope is alive.”

Listen here


Jesus didn’t just come to the aching heart of the Samaritan woman. To her brokenness and longing or suffering or weeping or need to be known. He comes to us. Because truth is- we are the Samaritan woman. Maybe we haven’t had five husbands- but there is something we are seeking and pursuing to try and find love and acceptance. Jesus is meeting us at the well. He’s meeting us in our heartache and heartbreak. In our longing to be understood and whole. In our suffering and things we can’t explain. In our pain and tears that never seem to stop flowing. In our need to be known. His arms are extended and reaching for us. His love is holding us close to His heart.  He offers us Hope that is alive and active. That doesn’t depend on the season or circumstance. This Hope does not fail or disappoint. This Hope remains secure even when everything around us is changing. This Hope is the only thing we can hold onto when everything else is stripped away. This Hope is the only thing that will truly satisfy our longing souls.

I don’t know how your heart is today, but I so desperately need to be reminded of this truth.

We are known and loved.

We need nothing more.

“Indeed the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear; you are more valuable than many sparrows.”

-Luke 12:7

“Lord, You have searched me and known me.”

-Psalm 139:1

“The Lord is my chosen portion and my cup; You hold my lot….I have set the Lord always before me; Because He is at my right hand, I shall not be shaken. Therefore my heart is glad and my whole being rejoices; my flesh also dwells secure. For you will not abandon my soul to Sheol, or let your holy one see corruption. You make known to me the path of life; in Your presence there is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures forever more.” 

-Psalm 16:5; 8-11

Much Love,



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